Hello blogworld :)

It's been a while since I've updated. I cannot believe how quickly time flies... it seems like yesterday my little Gabey Baby was born. He's already almost 10 months old, and nearly walking! I have to say motherhood has been extremely difficult, but it has been nothing short of amazing. It's like everytime I'm having a moment of grief my son knows how to make my heart feel all better. It's perfection, and I love it.

I'm back @ school. Being my fifth year, I feel like I kinda gotta kick it into gear. Last year I kinda slacked off, being pregnant the first semester and the second having a newborn, I believe I had every right to! But now it's back to work... I am only taking 2 classes right now, and then after that a year of student teaching and I shall be done! Hopefully I get a good job right away so I can finally feel accomplished! I'm still working in the same little old place... yeah Nextel and Sprint. It gets the job done for now. Heaven knows I do NOT want to be working there for the rest of my life though! That's for sure.

Other than that, that's whats new! I hope to keep you all updated more often. TTFN Besitos ♥

New Blog: Check It Out

Hey Everyone,

It's been a while since I've been on here to update. But I will try to update more often... :) Sorry! I have a new blog for you to follow... please follow & support me! Check it out @ http://survivingthe20thcenturyplayer.blogspot.com/

Thanks,
Melissa Jo

Quick Update

HELLO everyone!

It's been a minute since I've updated from my last posts. But ALOT has been going on in my life. What can I say I'm a busy woman!?

Gabriel is getting so big! It's hard to believe that just four months ago I was on my way to the hospital to deliver. He is 4 months old TODAY! He's been teething so he's been a little more fussy than usual but other than that he's doing great. My friends Kellie & Amy recently had their baby boys Cameron & Jace as well so we have been getting together and having our little mini-basketball team meet :) I love it. It's so much fun.

I have been struggling with trying to juggle everything from being a mother, going to class, homework, and working... everything I feel like was all overwhelming and happening at once. But I have been getting better with it. Now I'm starting to get into a routine and have things under control. Being a full time mother, full time student & part time worker is NOT EASY! But it'll all be worth it that's for sure! And I have been getting lots of help that makes things much easier and I appreciate it so much.

Other than that not much has been new :) just living my life day by day. Today my aunt is having surgery for her breast cancer to be removed so I'm praying that all goes well for that. I'm about to leave for the hospital so I will update later.

BESITOS,
Melissa Jo

Living For Today ♥

I was debating on whether I should go to sleep or not... but I decided to write down a few things that have been running through my head.

The past couple of days I have had alot going on in my life. And when I say ALOT, it is truly an understatement. I've cried, I've laughed, I've been rather amused... but all in all I've realized that there is nothing more a person can do but live for today.

I have tried so often to hold onto the past, guarding my future from my previous errors and mistakes. But its unnecessary. Holding tightly onto your past hinders your future, and any chance you have of ever being completely happy. You learn lessons from your past, you fall and get back up, but these lessons were never intended to hold you back they were intended to make you stronger. The difference is cherishing your past and the memories that have made you who you are today. Cherishing the people who've stumbled in and out of your life. Because if your forever holding onto the past... you'll never reach your future.

Another realization I have come to, is to stop planning for the future. Life is never guaranteed. There is an end, and nobody is guaranteed a tomorrow. So stop taking things so seriously, planning ahead, putting a title on things that are unnecessary, and trying to please the people in our society. Do what pleases you now in this very moment. This is not to say don't glimpse ahead to the future. It is merely stating, having an obsession with your future is unhealthy. Your constantly looking towards the future, looking to be happy, looking to have this and that... live for today, look for it now. Problems come and go, but happiness, happiness is the one you wanna keep around. If we're happy today, chances are we will be happy tomorrow.

Simply take it one day at a time ♥
Today is the day to start. :)

Memories {♥}

Tonight I was randomly rummaging through some old photos and it really got me thinking, "Man what I would do to go back to that memory and re-live it once more." Since obviously this isn't possible, unless there exists a time machine in the world that I am unaware of. LOL. So I decided to share a few of my favorite memories with you guys. Enjoy.

Memory #1: Okay... the very first memory that pops into my head is of course with my little sister Stephanie. When she was little she had to undergo multiple surgeries, which one of them entailed a full body cast from belly button to toes in the dead heat of the summer. Horrible I know! The doctor had reminded us time after time to not get the cast wet. I could tell my sister was suffering. So like the coolest big sister she'll ever have [haha] I came up with the brilliant idea to play with some water balloons. Haha... Like little girls, we wrote names on each balloon pretending them to be like a friend or something. And then popped them all over her! LOL. I still remember my mother coming out and her facial expression was like, "What are you doing?!?!" But she just started cracking up because she realized my intentions. :) Ohhhh the good old days.

Memory #2: Growing up I lived in a suburb with 16 houses where my best friend Jordan lived down the street. Her and I became inseperable. We spent every living moment together. It's hard to choose one memory with her that defines our relationship. But one of the MANY memories that stands out would definitely be our game time. We would play battleship, and when the opponent was hiding their battleships the other one would have to hide behind the couch. I would always sneak a peak and win, and I remember her getting SO mad. LOL. It made me crack up because she could never catch me cheating. :) Haha... you know that saying cheaters never prosper. Well that moment was totally worth it! LOL.

Memory #3: Another memory that means so much to me is our families Easter celebration. When we were little, all my mom's side of the family would get together on Easter to celebrate. We have a tradition where we fill eggs with confetti and crack them over eachothers head. This meant a lot to me because I was born on easter, and even though my birthday has never been on Easter since... we always celebrated it near my birthday. So I was able to see all my relatives. It was so much fun seeing all the adults chasing eachother, and doing our annual easter egg hunt. I miss those days so much.

Memory #4: Halloween 2007. I still remember this like it was yesterday. I have already explained this memory before. But man... this night is a night I will always remember. It was Nych's 20th birthday and also a Halloween party. We had a BLAST. The night ended up with Nych passed out in the bathtub while holding my hair while I was passed out over the toilet. Haha... From beginning to end this night was by far an eventful night.

Memory #5: Getting announced homecoming Queen :) My whole family was so proud of me and I really did feel like a Queen for the entire day. There wasn't a second where I wasn't grinning cheek to cheek. To this day Jay and I still joke that he is my king and I am his queen.

Memory #6: My athlete family. Maaaan, do I miss my sports. :( If there's one thing I would wanna go back and do again, it would be play sports. All the girls on every team were like my sisters. They made everything so fun. One memory in particular would probably be Gulf
Shores Alabama. Every year our softball team
would travel to Gulf Shores over spring break and practice and vacation together for team bonding. Laying out in the sun with all the girls and talking about our love lives and secret crushes was such a fun time. Something I will always look back on and smile.

Memory #7: Definitely my black and white party! LOL. Let's just say I decided the bright idea of having a themed party at our place in Copper Beech. All three of my roommates as well as me invited almost everyone we knew and over 100 people packed into our apartment that night. Before the party barely even started 7 cops surrounded our place breaking it up! LOL. The person that was the most drunk was trying to talk to the cops... and everyone else was running! I denied living there... when I was in my own room with pictures of me up all over the place! LOL. And the night ended with my beating up my roommate as she laughed and tried to take off her clothes. Hahahaha... oh geez how I miss our college parties. :)

Memory #8: Camping in Silver Lake. :( The dunes are one of my favorite places to go... it's beautiful. And I guess why this place means so much to me is because every single year on fourth of july my mom's entire side of the family would go camping for like an entire week. No worries. Just family. Love and games and fun in the sun. We even rented a pontoon boat for a day and spent it out on the lake. These are memories I would never replace for the world.

Memory #9: Watching my sister graduate. Now I know for alot of people this doesn't mean alot. But to me... this meant the world. Since being she's in a wheelchair with cerebral palsy, she has come upon numerous barriers. She wheeled herself across the stage and graduated :) I was so proud. Not only that... she is now attending the same college as I am, and even getting better grades than I did! What is up with that?! LOL.

Memory #10: Welcoming my son Gabriel Chance Valentin into the world :) That moment was one of the best moments in my life. There aren't even words to describe the emotions that filled me. I was in love the moment I saw him... and I still am to this day. November 18th 2008 was a miracle. My little miracle.

Today Was A Horrible Day

Today was a horrible day.
I hate today.
Everything about it. :(
My baby boy has bronchialitis.
He has a horrible cough, stuffy nose, sore throat.
I am sick.
Got zero sleep.
Missed my classes cause I had to take Gabriel to the ER.
Got into a fight with Nych.
Today was a horrible day.

[♥] Twenty-Five things on Breaking Up for Females [♥]

Not all women know how to handle themselves through a breakup. So I wrote this specifically for you in result of my lovely relationship experiences. If any one of these things hits home for you, or helps you in anyway, I'm successful. :) Enjoy.

Here's to all my females:

1. Love is a lifetime commitment, if you find a male constantly leaving and coming back obviously he's not commited, therefore it is not love.
2. Trust is a must. Period. No trust, no go!
3. Never settle for less. There are thousands of males out there that are dying to show you their endless love. Why settle for anything less when you could possibly be getting it all?
4. Once a cheater always a cheater. Enough said.
5. The blame game is a no go. The only person to blame is yourself for not kicking their big old booty to the curb sooner.
6. Never regret, it is because of them that you will never fall for a broken male again.
7. Wear short skirts, high heels, puckered lips & poofy hair whenever you see them. They will see what a dumb ass they were for letting you go. And you will love watching them cringe.
8. Always trust your intuitions.
9. If you love your family & they do not like them, then neither should you.
10. One lie, leads to another, leads to another, which leads to another. So break it off the first time. You don't want a liar for a husband do you?
11. In the words of beyonce, "If you liked it then you shoulda put a ring on it."
12. There's something wrong when they come home @ 4 in the morning creating nonsense excuses. Best believe that.
13. If they can look you in the eyes and lie to you, they don't deserve your respect or love. Ever.
14. When you receive their text asking for you back, laugh hysterically. Then don't even waste your breath. Lean over and hold your new man tightly.
15. Keep on stepping. No time to fall down. And those shoes your wearing were expensive!
16. Make time for the girls, they are the ones that will always be there for you when the males come and go.
17. Head up. They'll be checking up on you, and it'll kill them to see you fall. But it's gonna murder them to see you happy. :)
18. Stop worrying about them. Stop checking their statuses and memos, you already know their with another dumb ho whose falling for their tricks. Therefore that two seconds you just wasted looking, could have been better spent painting your toenails or plucking your eyebrows. LOL.
19. Life isn't always perfect. It's cool if your past relationships leave some nasty scars. But bandage them up yourself and get back on your feet.
20. If your singing the song, "I'll bust your windows out your car" and they don't even have a car, there's a problem. You need a man @ your side who has got their business together. Stop trying to help put theirs together.
21. If you ever falter and miraculously start thinking about the few good moments of the relationship, pop in a Beyonce CD. Problem solved.
22. Attitude is the worst solution. Giving them attitude gives them confidence because they believe they have a hold on you. So be nice. They'll be acting all crazy in the matter of seconds wondering what or even better WHO is making you so care-free and happy.
23. The past is in the past. Keep it there.
24. Walk with confidence even if you don't have it. Eventually it'll catch on & you'll be feeling all superhuman.
25. Most importantly, love again. [♥] There is that someone out there for you. He's waiting to make you his Queen. Never let a relationship inhibit your ability to love again. Have hope [♥]